Magical Thinking. Get Real.
Magical thinking is one of the things that a young subconscious mind will indulge in and often continues over in to adulthood. Before I begin I am not referring to Magick the ability with control self discipline and knowledge to co-create the realities that you move through. To become a co-creator of the universe. With skill power and integrity that is a different matter and through calibration and evidence avoid self delusional fantasies.
This form of thinking is about assuming a logical conclusion to an act that is illogical as the reality checker may have been switched of and your emotions have taken over. Not a good situation to be in as it usually is driven by fear, stress and your dinosaur brain.
It is an assumption that if I do X someone else will do Y.
If I loose weight then she will find me attractive. This seams logical yet unless the other person has agreed to this and they are the kind of person who keeps their word then the other has no knowledge of what you have made up.
Many relationship problems exist because of this when one person makes something up and then expects the other person to live by a rule that they have no idea even exists. If you loved me then you would make me happy and do it for me. It is also a complex equivalent.
Below is an excerpt from one of Duncan McColl’s self hypnosis recordings Love Awareness that begins to explain this lunacy. If you are experiencing relationship problems it is an excellent place to start.
When you are operating from a set of rules that you both understand and agree to that is not magical thinking.
This form of thinking usually involves a mixture of aspects hopes, fantasy, immaturity, trust and a big dose of an inner child running your emotions. The big problems comes when we hit reality and other people do not live by our rules that usually they have no idea exists or they for valid reasons choose not to live by.
When we don’t get our own way the inner kid usually throws a tantrum. Many people every day place them selves in harms way because of this attitude from the young woman who thinks it is her right to dress and behave in a certain way to someone who thinks it won’t happen when it does they often feel betrayed hurt and disappointed. This is not a betrayal of the other it is a betrayed by us of our selves and our reality.
Common sense, personal responsibility, reality checker turned on and self awareness and understanding why we do what we do will all assist in you avoiding magical thinking and make you far more effective in your life and the reality you create.